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You're in the way.

It’s time to own your shit.

You are the barrier preventing yourself from having everything you don’t yet have. You need to admit this. Because the sooner you do, the sooner you can fix it. Anyone who tells you otherwise is babying you and holding you back. I am not that guy.

This is applicable to everything and it’s a truth most people don’t want to fully hear or accept, and that’s why they will never have the life they want. There is absolutely no area of your life that you, and only you, cannot make better by changing your own actions.

I was speaking to a potential client yesterday. One of the questions I ask people on consults is “why can you not do the thing you want to do, right now"?” and to that, one of his responses was alcohol.

He did not drink heavily per sitting, but he had “only” 1-2 drinks with dinner each night because it made “tasty food better and helped him take the edge off after work”. He also said he couldn’t sleep more than 5 hours a night, which in turn made training hard to be consistant with, which in turn made him stressed about balancing life and work, which in turn led him to the evening drinks. The vicious cycle of self sabotage…and of weakness.

I was blunt with him and told him that 7-14 drinks a week is not insignificant, that he had a problem with alcohol and that it was leaching into all areas of his life, even if he did not see it. He didn’t think he could handle overhauling his drinking, his sleep, his training and his stress all at once, and he didn’t have to. Removing the drinking would allow the sleep to come which would allow the training to come which would allow the stress of the day to simmer lower which makes the next drink free night easier. Rinse and repeat. It sounds simple when you write it out. You make one change, 4 things improve.

Some people grasp this concep well, to others, it’s like a foreign language. This man did not understand and was unwilling to confront himself and accept he was responsible for the cycles he was stuck in. He refused to identify his own issues, which would allow him to correct them, and instead blamed work, friends, everything and everyone around him for their role in creating the environment he was struggling in, but never once could he man up and say “I am the problem, I need to change this, I will.”. And so I wished him well, and that was the end of the conversation.

These barriers we create can take countless shapes and forms. They can be easy to hide or painfully obvious to everyone around you…but the shared quality in them all is that YOU are the only one who can wake up one day, look in the mirror, say “bro what are you doing? It’s showtime, wake up”.

Un-fuck-yourself.

You eat like shit.

You drink too much.

You pick up the cigarette.

You spend money irresponsibly.

You lie, cheat or steal.

You cut training short.

You spend too much time on your phone.

You neglect your friends, family and loved ones.

You check out at work.

The list goes on, forever.

Own up to who you are. Speak for yourself, create the human experience you want to have…don’t just mimic what you see around you or bend the knee to try and appease the people in your orbit, they don’t know shit either and they aren’t you. Show up for the things in life you should show up for, your loved ones, your work, your training, yourself. Stop wasting time, it’s the most precious thing we have. Just show up.

Is your current state truly the best it can be? If you answered yes, you lied, try again.

Wake up tomorrow, fix something. Be better, do more, repeat until you die. That day is coming, but it’s coming sooner if you carry on as you are now. You have not arrived.

Onwards, Always.